[b0udicca]

annika-christen wrote: There's nothing wrong with uncommited sex. Well, there is if you're already with someone and that person is not the one you slept with.

Hah, open relationships FTW. As long as all parties are aware of the situation and consenting and protection is used, there is nothing wrong with it at all. My boyfriend encourages me to sleep with other people and I do the same with him. We have an incredibly strong relationship and love each other deeply; it just involves other people and there's nothing wrong with that.

[lo_specchio]

la_senorita_azul wrote: Mostly the first, but I think that if you are truly committed to somebody and wait until there is some real sentimental value, you won't have loads of sex partners, because the time between having sex with different people is longer. I hope that makes sense. But odds are that if you look for commitment in sex, you won't experiment and you'll go longer between having sex with different people, and that equals fewer people slept with at the same age as somebody who just likes to sleep with random people.

Your reasoning makes sense, but life is more complicated than schemes... I know examples of people who have always looked for commitment in sex, but still had a lot of sexual partners. They experienced feelings and devotion for the people having sex with them, but the fact is those didn't last for a long time. Also, not all people who have no problem with uncommitted sex had a lot of sexual partners. The fact that you accept uncommitted sex does not mean you have uncommitted sex all the time. You may only have it once in a while. You may do it and then find a constant partner soon and end up with uncommitted sex.


I don't understand why you find uncommitted sex disgusting, anyway. Parties involved are aware of what is going on and consent to it, what is bad about that?

[catwalkv2]

Once again, what goes on between two (or more) consenting adults is between those two (or more) consenting adults, and no one else's business.

[danewhotness]

Sex without love is pointless and meaningless.

[titanz91]

danewhotness wrote: Sex without love is pointless and meaningless.

thats how i feel but its not the same for everyone else.

[kat24681012]

Theres nothing wrong with doing it with likr ur friends nothing at all

[trans-precious]

danewhotness wrote: Sex without love is pointless and meaningless.

And that's the way some people like it. ;P Of course, it isn't always meaningless--there are different reasons for people to do that and they don't all involve love.

[material_boy]

trans-precious wrote: And that's the way some people like it. ;P Of course, it isn't always meaningless--there are different reasons for people to do that and they don't all involve love.

THIS.

[la_senorita_azul]

lo_specchio wrote: Your reasoning makes sense, but life is more complicated than schemes... I know examples of people who have always looked for commitment in sex, but still had a lot of sexual partners. They experienced feelings and devotion for the people having sex with them, but the fact is those didn't last for a long time. Also, not all people who have no problem with uncommitted sex had a lot of sexual partners. The fact that you accept uncommitted sex does not mean you have uncommitted sex all the time. You may only have it once in a while. You may do it and then find a constant partner soon and end up with uncommitted sex. I don't understand why you find uncommitted sex disgusting, anyway. Parties involved are aware of what is going on and consent to it, what is bad about that?

It's just in general, if you look for commitment, it takes longer for you to get into bed with somebody. And people that keep having uncommitted sex with the same person are usually bound to have some sort of commitment after a while.
And do I really need a reason why I find something disgusting? I can't control whether or not I like stuff. If I don't like broccoli, I can't force myself to like it. I just don't like it. Same goes with concepts such as uncommitted sex. It doesn't sit well with me. If you want to eat broccoli, go ahead. I won't stop you. If you want to have meaningless sex with every guy in town, I won't stop you.

[hooobo]

I think you should wait until you get married, but thats my opinion. Friends should not have sex because well their friends for so long, and after that who knows what will happen, don't mess with friendship. When your married, at least you know that your in love.