[lord_of_antlers]

i can't think of any reason it would be a bad thing.
it's really no one's business.
sex is a basic element of human life, like eating and using the loo. Some people eat when they are not hungry. Why not have sex when you're not in love?

[foreignskyline]

la_senorita_azul wrote: I may be wrong, but didn't you say once that you got raped by your dad or stepdad or something and got pregnant? Sure, it may not have been your choice, but I'd call that a loss of virginity... I don't believe in virgin birth.

I was thinking the same thing.

[meghan-rock-star]

supershrimp wrote: Masturbation.

doesn't give full satisfaction, especially not for women. Also excessive masturbation can lead to extreme mood swings

[titanz91]

meghan-rock-star wrote: doesn't give full satisfaction, especially not for women. Also excessive masturbation can lead to extreme mood swings

thats what i'm thinking about sometimes i mean i can't help but wonder what sex is like for woman and if it feels diffrently for other guys... Sorry if that sounds perverted.

[therapywouldhelp]

la_senorita_azul wrote: I may be wrong, but didn't you say once that you got raped by your dad or stepdad or something and got pregnant? Sure, it may not have been your choice, but I'd call that a loss of virginity... I don't believe in virgin birth.

Physically it's a loss of virginity, but mentally she can say she's a virgin. Being raped shouldn't count as losing your virginity because kicking and screaming is different to wanting and enjoying it.

[therapywouldhelp]

supershrimp wrote: Masturbation.

Too much of it can have it's side-effects though. Like redness, etc.

[lickmylollipop_x]

yokaiprincess wrote: sometimes you have really bad sexual tension and need to get it out. Uncommitted sex isnt bad (however im considered a virgin so it might not matter.)

Aren't you 4 months pregnant?
Thus, NOT making you a virgin?

[magicalmercedes]

la_senorita_azul wrote: I go to Catholic school, so there is extreme pressure to remain "clean". It's actually kind of sad. If you even flash your boyfriend of 2 years or show him a picture, the whole school turns on you and it's like a witch hunt. In most schools, teens are pressured to sleep around and get pregnant and things like that. At my school, if you leak that you had sex.... Dang, I feel sorry for you. I think that I would want to wait until I was at least around a year into the relationship to have sex. If I can stay with somebody for a year, it's good enough for me. Of course, just being together a year doesn't mean we'd be ready. But just to prevent myself from being used, and so some real emotion is involved, I'd want to wait. Saving it for marriage may not be what I do, but still, I want there to be some expression of love or emotion. Assuming I ever find a relationship that has that much love or emotion in it, of course.

That's kind of how I feel.
I would love to wait till marriage, but if I'm sure I love the person, I don't think I'd mind.
I don't want to just have sex with ANYONE. I'd rather not end up hurt if it was someone I wanted to be with, you know?

I probably am waiting till marriage, though.

I don't think it's WRONG, but it's not right for me.
Depends on the person's morals. And that wasn't meant to mean that the ones who have sex for the heck of it have loose morals. It's just that that's how they are, we don't need to judge whether they're right or wrong. It's their decision.

-Merc

[therapywouldhelp]

lickmylollipop_x wrote: Aren't you 4 months pregnant? Thus, NOT making you a virgin?

Rape victims have a different kind of, how you say, "virginity" to people who lose it of their own free will.

If you've kept the baby, good for you. Be strong gurl! Be a phenominal woman

[queen_anneboleyn]

You only live once ! As long as it is safe and consensual and your not hurting anyone who cares ? Everyone has needs...