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evan-isla77

Do you think that dead beat dad's should have absolute parental rights when they aren't contributing anything to the mom or child? For example, I have a friend that had a baby with the totally wrong guy and he turned into a verbally abusive, lazy drunk, who refused to get a job and decided instead to go to the bars all night every night. WHich in turn of course left her doing everything anyways. Needless to say they broke up. Well, she has the chance to move where there are better opportunities for her and her son. But of course the piece of $%^@ dad is flipping out. Do you think that she should have the right to better her and her child's life regardless of what the guy says? Or should she have to stay where she is at and let him ruin her life?

younginstasy

Why doesn't she just file for custody?
Then she can move anywhere she pleases, and get child support from him.

As long as she has proof that he is an unfit parent, she should have no problem.

Otherwise, no I don't think she should be able to move unless she has gone through the proper steps. They made a child together, and both are equally entitled to see their child. So, if she really wanted to better her and her childs life, she would file for custody.

evan-isla77

True, but the state she lives in it is nearly impossible to get sole custody. Even child molesters are granted visitation, it is supervised, but still.

younginstasy

Which state does she live in?
Even if he does get visitation rights, it shouldn't prevent her from moving if she is the primary care giver.

evan-isla77

Ohio. I just feel for her because I had to go through a similar situation with my son's father and it isn't easy. And it's aggravating to have to bend over backwards for someone who won't even pay child support because the court says so.

tesha1212

My daughters dad was a piece of ca-ca. He did nothing either, and I continued to let him see her. But just what I thought was gonna happen did...True to his nature, the visits became less and less, and once they have their eyes set on someone else, well you know how that goes. My reasoning for doing it that way was so it could never be said that I kept him from her. And as kids get older, they get smarter,they realize whats REALLY going on. Why mommy and daddy aren't together...daddys a D*&$

evan-isla77

My son's dad is not in the picture either. He is exactly like my girlfriends ex. A total waste. We wound up leaving. I figure when my son's old enough I will be able to explain his father to him, and if he would ever want to find him that would be up to him. And I will be here after the disappointment.

ohscrewthename

Get rid of the deadbeat ASAP. Only unhapiness and regret will come from keeping a loser around. Once he's gone, you'll wonder how you ever got on with him there.

evan-isla77

I'm already there and have been for about 6 months now. And yes it is amazing when I think back to what a complete peice of ----- he was. When I think of our life now and what it could have been the difference is astounding. I told my friend to get out, but she is getting caught up with legalities. Plus in response to something that was said before if the guy can't or won't pay child support then to me he holds no equal parenting rights. Yes you may have made a child together but that doesn't always make him anything more than a sperm donor.

younginstasy

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evan-isla77 wrote:

Plus in response to something that was said before if the guy can't or won't pay child support then to me he holds no equal parenting rights. Yes you may have made a child together but that doesn't always make him anything more than a sperm donor.

I think he does.
He is her father, and it doesn't matter what he won't do, the law still sees him as a parent.
If he doesn't pay child support, he gets in trouble, that's how it works.
He is more then a sperm donor if they had a relationship before hand, which that's what it sounds like. If it was a one night stand, that would be a much different story.

Money shouldn't make a parent.